How I met him
She was married in 2014 a year ago. Saubhagya a brilliant girl with a pretty face. In her life everything that was significant was not planned neither her career was planned nor was her marriage.
Once I met her and asked her how is your married life going on she replied well its quiet good at first I never thought I would love this guy but I had him in my destiny . My curiosity arrose and I asked her "what do you mean by at first I never thought I would love this guy?". She said yes in starting I didn't liked him. I queried " yours was an arranged marriage right .?" She said "yes". Soo well if you didn't like him why did you said yes? I interrogated. She said...
Well the story is like this I was in my mid 25 like every Indian parent my parents were worried about my marriage but the strange thing was I was more worried about my marriage than my parents were... After all it was my childhood dream. Since childhood I was dreaming about my wedding card, the decorations and the bridal dress. I know it seems silly but that's how I was.
After talking to some suitable matches my father sealed the deal with one guy. A guy whom I don't find attractive in any means , mostly because he was a marketing guy and I was prejudice about marketing persons that they are liars their job itself demands it they fool public to sell their products. I always used to advice others that never ever trust a marketing guy.
But I didn't knew my destiny was planned with this marketing guy.
When they came to see me officially I was not ready for this relation but my father shouted on me "I don't know what sort of boy you like whenever I choose someone for you you have your own list of problems. I don't see any problem with this boy." And I was thinking deep in my mind I don't deserve this but how can I explain you. Then came the ultimate suggestion by my mum which changed my whole life "what's the problem in meeting the boy if you don't like him don't marry him ".I said well that's a good option to escape with my father's anger and I decided to meet him.
My parents were busy in decorating the home buying few of new showpieces and All this time I kept on telling them why are you wasting the money it may be possible that they say "no" then why to waste money but it seemed they didn't cared to listen.
He came to my house along with his mum and dad.the first word I heard from his mum's mouth "sunder to hai" (she is beautiful) as I entered the room. I wore my pink suit , a gold chain matched with golden wrist watch. I wore my specks as I wanted them to know that I had a weak eyesight and applied face powder and a light shade lipstick with no other makeup because I wanted them to see my as I look with no artificiality involved. He was wearing sweater and a trouser.
I came to room and started talking to his dad as I found him interesting and I was cool about the fact " I am not going to marry him anyways it is just a formality" so I didn't even hesitated in talking to his dad. I saw 2-3 times towards him he was continuously looking at me. once I had Eye contact with him and I hurried to withdrew my eyes from his face ( I felt shy for no reason) . Then came the time when I was allowed to sit and talk to him in the room (all alone).
He asked me first question "so what are your hobbies"
I said " as such there are no hobbies of mine". He looked confused so hurriedly I said "reading... I like reading ".
I asked about his hobbies he mentioned three things of which I remembered only last one "COOKING". I reapeted in joyful voice "cooking" similing to myself with the fact that I don't know cooking. He said "yes why" I came back to my normal mode and said "ohh no nothing". I didn't tell him that I don't know cooking neither did he asked. Later he asked me " tell me about yourself and your job" and I started with the stories of my intelligence how I always had been good in studies I also managed to clear ph.d entrance and secured 1st position in my subject my Chacha told me this is
very good field even my father thought so but in between I managed to get job in electricity board I always aimed to get government job so I dropped the idea of ph.d as there were attendance issues. I just love my job ."I paused for a while and thought that I am opening too much In front of a stranger. Till now I had not developed the feeling that he could be the one with whom I can be hooked up I was taking everything so casual and it was fun to me . I was thinking he will be going soon and will be going back to my work.
He took my pause as an opportunity to speak and asked me "do you want to know anything about me?" Though I was more happy about narrating my own story I asked him about his job profile he answered me in a very low voice therefore I had to listen him very carefully . Through all these talking he was continuously looking at me so I kept looking downwards as I was not having courage to look into eyes (those big eyes) . After he finished telling about his job profile which I half understood but didn't asked for anymore clarifications thinking to myself God knows what he does....anyways why should I bother I am not marrying him. I asked him next "will you ever ask me to leave job?" He said "why would I,I like my wife to be working " I smiled. He asked "anything else you want to know about me?"
And I stupidly replied to him " ummmm....actually I don't know what to ask . it's the first time I am meeting a guy for marriage purpose". He said ok as he understood me completely without any smile, but in my mind I thought how stupid it was I could have answered sensibly. What he might be thinking of me. I was surrounded with self guilt thoughts and suddenly a thought strucked to my mind. He was about to leave the room and suddenly I shouted " can I ask you one thing?"
This time he said yes of course trying to hide his smile and sat agin . And I asked with little confusion thinking what he will think of me but it was an important question and finally coming out of my thoughts I asked him "what's your package " . He answered and kept looking at me to know my reaction and I said ok. We both came out of my room and soon they left our place saying we will let you know whether it's a yes or no from our side afterwards.
After they left our place my father asked me " so do you liked the boy". I answered to him we can't decide about what clothes we want to buy in 5 minutes how can decide about my life partner. To this my father replied to me "life's important decisions are taken in 5 minutes ...till how long your job interview lasted and see one job changed your life." His words added more to my confusion .
I kept thinking whole night and next day about how stupidly I acted in front of him which made me smile whole time. I couldn't resist thinking about their answere and kept asking myself why I am so concerned about their answer I don't want to marry him. Probably I don't liked rejection nobody likes rejection.
And then next evening almost after 24 hours the answer came from their side " YES".
"So this is how I got hooked with him" she said and we both laughed . Yes destiny is planned and
makes its way . Saubhagya's marriage is one of the example.
Once I met her and asked her how is your married life going on she replied well its quiet good at first I never thought I would love this guy but I had him in my destiny . My curiosity arrose and I asked her "what do you mean by at first I never thought I would love this guy?". She said yes in starting I didn't liked him. I queried " yours was an arranged marriage right .?" She said "yes". Soo well if you didn't like him why did you said yes? I interrogated. She said...
Well the story is like this I was in my mid 25 like every Indian parent my parents were worried about my marriage but the strange thing was I was more worried about my marriage than my parents were... After all it was my childhood dream. Since childhood I was dreaming about my wedding card, the decorations and the bridal dress. I know it seems silly but that's how I was.
After talking to some suitable matches my father sealed the deal with one guy. A guy whom I don't find attractive in any means , mostly because he was a marketing guy and I was prejudice about marketing persons that they are liars their job itself demands it they fool public to sell their products. I always used to advice others that never ever trust a marketing guy.
But I didn't knew my destiny was planned with this marketing guy.
When they came to see me officially I was not ready for this relation but my father shouted on me "I don't know what sort of boy you like whenever I choose someone for you you have your own list of problems. I don't see any problem with this boy." And I was thinking deep in my mind I don't deserve this but how can I explain you. Then came the ultimate suggestion by my mum which changed my whole life "what's the problem in meeting the boy if you don't like him don't marry him ".I said well that's a good option to escape with my father's anger and I decided to meet him.
My parents were busy in decorating the home buying few of new showpieces and All this time I kept on telling them why are you wasting the money it may be possible that they say "no" then why to waste money but it seemed they didn't cared to listen.
He came to my house along with his mum and dad.the first word I heard from his mum's mouth "sunder to hai" (she is beautiful) as I entered the room. I wore my pink suit , a gold chain matched with golden wrist watch. I wore my specks as I wanted them to know that I had a weak eyesight and applied face powder and a light shade lipstick with no other makeup because I wanted them to see my as I look with no artificiality involved. He was wearing sweater and a trouser.
I came to room and started talking to his dad as I found him interesting and I was cool about the fact " I am not going to marry him anyways it is just a formality" so I didn't even hesitated in talking to his dad. I saw 2-3 times towards him he was continuously looking at me. once I had Eye contact with him and I hurried to withdrew my eyes from his face ( I felt shy for no reason) . Then came the time when I was allowed to sit and talk to him in the room (all alone).
He asked me first question "so what are your hobbies"
I said " as such there are no hobbies of mine". He looked confused so hurriedly I said "reading... I like reading ".
I asked about his hobbies he mentioned three things of which I remembered only last one "COOKING". I reapeted in joyful voice "cooking" similing to myself with the fact that I don't know cooking. He said "yes why" I came back to my normal mode and said "ohh no nothing". I didn't tell him that I don't know cooking neither did he asked. Later he asked me " tell me about yourself and your job" and I started with the stories of my intelligence how I always had been good in studies I also managed to clear ph.d entrance and secured 1st position in my subject my Chacha told me this is
very good field even my father thought so but in between I managed to get job in electricity board I always aimed to get government job so I dropped the idea of ph.d as there were attendance issues. I just love my job ."I paused for a while and thought that I am opening too much In front of a stranger. Till now I had not developed the feeling that he could be the one with whom I can be hooked up I was taking everything so casual and it was fun to me . I was thinking he will be going soon and will be going back to my work.
He took my pause as an opportunity to speak and asked me "do you want to know anything about me?" Though I was more happy about narrating my own story I asked him about his job profile he answered me in a very low voice therefore I had to listen him very carefully . Through all these talking he was continuously looking at me so I kept looking downwards as I was not having courage to look into eyes (those big eyes) . After he finished telling about his job profile which I half understood but didn't asked for anymore clarifications thinking to myself God knows what he does....anyways why should I bother I am not marrying him. I asked him next "will you ever ask me to leave job?" He said "why would I,I like my wife to be working " I smiled. He asked "anything else you want to know about me?"
And I stupidly replied to him " ummmm....actually I don't know what to ask . it's the first time I am meeting a guy for marriage purpose". He said ok as he understood me completely without any smile, but in my mind I thought how stupid it was I could have answered sensibly. What he might be thinking of me. I was surrounded with self guilt thoughts and suddenly a thought strucked to my mind. He was about to leave the room and suddenly I shouted " can I ask you one thing?"
This time he said yes of course trying to hide his smile and sat agin . And I asked with little confusion thinking what he will think of me but it was an important question and finally coming out of my thoughts I asked him "what's your package " . He answered and kept looking at me to know my reaction and I said ok. We both came out of my room and soon they left our place saying we will let you know whether it's a yes or no from our side afterwards.
After they left our place my father asked me " so do you liked the boy". I answered to him we can't decide about what clothes we want to buy in 5 minutes how can decide about my life partner. To this my father replied to me "life's important decisions are taken in 5 minutes ...till how long your job interview lasted and see one job changed your life." His words added more to my confusion .
I kept thinking whole night and next day about how stupidly I acted in front of him which made me smile whole time. I couldn't resist thinking about their answere and kept asking myself why I am so concerned about their answer I don't want to marry him. Probably I don't liked rejection nobody likes rejection.
And then next evening almost after 24 hours the answer came from their side " YES".
"So this is how I got hooked with him" she said and we both laughed . Yes destiny is planned and
makes its way . Saubhagya's marriage is one of the example.
Thanx :)
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